Gaudete: Rejoice!

    Isaiah 35:1-10            James 5:7-10            Matthew 11:2-11

Eleven years ago during this week of Advent III, my mother died in a Kansas City nursing home.  Her story seems to fit with the message of today's beautiful poetry from Isaiah and Jesus’ answer to the messenger from the imprisoned John the Baptist.  And while her experience is both personal and literal, I hope it will be instructive.

A bit of background.  My mother was outgoing and gregarious.  During World War II and following when our family had only one car, Mother, like other wives, was basically confined to the neighborhood.  The telephone was her lifeline.  She loved to talk -- and laugh.  I remember eavesdropping on her end of  adult conversations and wondering how she could possibly find so many topics to discuss.  Her favorite social activity with my father was ballroom dancing.  Why, she had once won a dance contest.  And, oh, how she loved to organize -- the Altar Guild, the PTA, her college sorority alumnae group – it didn’t matter.  She was a go-to gal.

After my father retired in 1973 and just as they were beginning to travel together, Mother suffered a cerebral aneurysm and was not expected to live.  Cutting edge surgery saved her, but initially left her partially paralyzed on her right side and able to utter only the words “yes,” “no,” and “damn.”  She spent six months in a rehabilitation facility, then continued speech and physical therapy for several years.  Ultimately she learned to shamble unassisted with a cane or walker and, at the peak of her progress, could leave her apartment and stroll by herself in the nearby shopping area.

A greater handicap was her speech -- affected by aphasia -- which often made it difficult for her to find the right words and for others to understand what she was trying to say.  The frustration of being unable to communicate as she once had changed her.  She avoided social occasions and had a genuine fear of meeting new people.  This withdrawn, sometimes embittered person was not the mother of my childhood.
 
Other than my father’s devoted care of her for those twenty-three years between the aneurysm and her death, the one constant in her life was her faith in God and in a Jesus whom she knew quite personally.  I remember her saying, “Can’t read, can’t write, can’t dance ... so what?  Jesus loves you.”  Although she believed God was everywhere, I can tell you exactly where her Lord most especially resided – in the sanctuary of St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church where she occupied the front pew for the 8:00 a.m. service every Sunday morning.  I have no doubt that the Eucharist was her motivation to keep going.

Her last two years were spent in a nursing home.  In 1996 Larry and I made a trip to Kansas City to deliver Christmas presents to our three children and their families, planning to stay only overnight.  We arrived in the evening, too late to visit Mother.  However, about 8:30 that night I received a call from the nursing home informing me that Mother’s organs were shutting down.  When I arrived at her bedside half an hour later, she opened her eyes, smiled, and murmured my name.  She had always loved Christmas, so I spent some time recalling holiday memories.  Then I sang a few carols.  Tiring, she clung to my hand as we said the Lord’s Prayer together.  Finally I sang “Silent Night.”  Her face became transfigured.  Her cheeks were rosy, the wrinkles gone.  She smiled the most beautiful, peaceful smile, then rolled on her side, her knees drawn up, her hands fisted beneath her chin like a child’s, and went to sleep, still smiling.  She never woke up.

Now I tell you this, not as a sad story, but a triumphant one.  No matter her sins -- and, like all of us, Mother had them -- sins of envy, frustration, anger, selfishness and spite -- she knew about Isaiah’s highway -- the one called the Holy Way.  Even in her altered state, she understood she could travel it through repentance, forgiveness, prayer, and faith.  She knew that joy and gladness awaited her at the end, and that sorrow and sighing would eventually flee away.

I left the nursing home that night absolutely convinced that mother was, at last, leaping like a deer and that her tongue was singing for joy.  The desert of her long and difficult journey was, indeed, blossoming, and God, in his infinite love, had strengthened her weak hands and made firm her feeble knees.
 
Fittingly, this third Sunday of Advent is also known as “Gaudete” Sunday, symbolized by the rose-colored candle in the Advent wreath.  “Gaudete” is the Latin word for rejoice.  This morning’s reading from Isaiah gives us a glimpse of what lies at the end of the road, the road the prophet calls the “Holy Way.”  When we walk that highway with penitence and humbly seek to do God’s will, Isaiah tells us we shall walk with the redeemed.  We shall ultimately be shed of the burden of sin, forgiven and ransomed by God’s all-encompassing mercy.  We shall rejoice!

A few moments from now, we will renew our baptismal covenant.  By affirming our renunciation of evil and promising to follow and obey Jesus Christ, we recommit ourselves to walking that “Holy Way” which leads to hope and salvation.

The season of Advent calls us to consider our own shortcomings.  To rejoin the highway from which we have strayed.  To prepare our hearts for the gift of the Christ child.   Because, you see, my mother wasn’t the only one afflicted.  In our own ways, we are all handicapped by something.  Our Advent self-reflection involves such difficult questions as these:

Am I blind to my own arrogance, blind to the suffering of my fellow human beings?  In my self-absorption, do I fail to see and respond to the love and understanding others offer me?

Perhaps I am deaf to the words of those who ask my forgiveness, heedless to those who invite the use of my gifts in service to others.

Am I speechless when I should utter the word of love, mute when resentment or ill will causes me to brood, or silent when injustice occurs?

Or maybe I am lame, indulging my senses rather than caring for my health and well-being.  How often am I crippled from over-exercising my ego or paralyzed by my heart’s inactivity?
 
It is all too tempting to excuse ourselves, rationalize our behavior, and hope for the best.  Yet as James tell us in today's second lesson, “the Judge is standing at the doors!” [5:9] The Baptismal Covenant is so much more than empty words -- it gives us our marching orders for the highway, the Holy Way.  And the destination is glorious -- a place where the desert blooms, the burning sand becomes a pool, and where no ravenous beasts lie in wait to destroy us.  A place of healing and rejoicing.

Too often, though, we seek the path of least resistance or wander into the byways of indulgence.  We want the reward of the glorious destination without the expenditure of self-denial or discipline.  We see what we want to see, hear what we want to hear, and go where we want to go.

In this morning’s Gospel reading from Matthew, Jesus addresses this failing when he asks the crowds what exactly it was they anticipated of their encounters with John the Baptist–a nice trip to the countryside to see the reeds blow?  A royal personage dressed in soft robes?  A spectacle?  What, he asks, is the matter with them that they don’t see what is right before their eyes, even if the reality does thwart their expectations of a Messiah?

Why can’t they accept the evidence of their senses, he wonders.  Jesus sends the messenger on his way with these words:  “Go and tell what you hear and see: the blind receive their sight, the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, and the poor have good news brought to them. [11:4-5]

Right under their noses the prophecy is being fulfilled; but because they expected a vastly different leader, it is they who are blind, they who are deaf.

Isn’t that just like us?  We are frequently so preoccupied with the tugs and pulls of daily life that we seldom recognize the evidence of God’s miracles all around us, especially if we cling to the expectation of another reality.  But we don’t have to wait until some glorious future time to see God at work in the world.  To experience his boundless love.  We have only to open our eyes and ears.
 
In reflecting on my mother’s experience, I see there were miracles everywhere.  The newly-discovered surgical super glue which sealed the leak in her cranial artery, the first step she took unassisted, the 50th wedding anniversary celebration she was able to enjoy with my father, her quiet, unwavering confidence in God despite her limitations.

Naturally, we family members had wished for a different outcome for Mother, had hoped for a total recovery.  As in the arid desert, the blooms in her life were sparse and subtle.  But they were there -- are always there if we open our hearts.

Isaiah urges us to “walk the walk.”  Our Baptismal Covenant commits us to “walking the walk.”  And when we do, the handicaps, afflictions, and, yes, sins that have encumbered us fall away.

This is, most assuredly, “Gaudete” Sunday -- a time of rejoicing!

“And the ransomed of the Lord shall return, and come to Zion with singing; everlasting joy shall be upon their heads; they shall obtain joy and gladness, and sorrow and sighing shall flee away.” [Isaiah 35:10].

AMEN.

Laura Shoffner
Sunday, Dec. 16, 2007
Advent III


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